That’s right. In this world of 24/7 service, instant messaging, live texting and all other forms of instant gratification, find a few things to stop. First on the list?
Stop Talking About What You Need.
…instead take a look at what you have. The future is overrated and there’s no guarantee you’ll actually get there. Grinch-ish as this may seem, many of us spend precious moments in contemplation and in conversations about all the things we lack and all the things we need. This year instead of developing a vision for your future think about what you can do tomorrow to enhance your team, add value to your organization and do your job better.
Stop using the words “me” and “I”.
I like to refer to this as the “me-not-here” approach to professional communication. Not only will this new language surprise your team members and your boss, it will actually serve as a trigger to put others first. Whether you are leading a project team or not-for-profit committee, open your meetings by asking “Are we ready to start?” instead of “I’d like to get started”. When someone asks you a direct question about what you think, respond with “If our goal is to _____, we might want to _____.” Be warned, politicians have been using this technique for centuries. If not accompanied by healthy doses of sincerity (be honest) and integrity (make sure your actions follow your words); team members will become quickly desensitized (ignore you).
Stop changing.
Set aside all change-management and Kaizen philosophies (continuous improvement) for a month or two and focus on implementing what you already have. Work harder on your email communication. Listen more carefully in meetings. Prioritize your day. Smile at the grumpy waitress. Cheer more loudly for your team louder.
There is only one rule this year. Don’t wait for the future. Do better today.
